Wednesday, April 14, 2010
A Chilli List
There is much talk about Rozonda Thomas, her new show, and this 'list'. Lord knows I tried to be positive without fusing in reality. Notice that word: Reality? Lately, reality is mistaken for negativity.
Back to Chilli.
‘Man this man that.’ So tired of this chatter about black men and them being No Where to Be Found. Two weeks and counting of me hearing about the pathetic desperations of black women when it comes to men. It is absolutely disgusting. Yuck.
Was watching the Today Show this morning. Matt did an excellent piece on Working Moms. http://today.msnbc.msn.com/id/26184891/vp/36500286#36500286 - No black woman featured. That's to be expected. However, I began to think about the conversations we (black people) are having lately: ‘Man this and Man that.’ I began to think about how much black women focus on not having a man or believing that there are not any good black men. Then it hit me: The Message.
The message black women send to their daughters, nieces, and little girls in general...and teenage females. That message: You are Nothing without a Man.
I will stop here. But, before I go onto something worthy of my time (i.e. reading about the humanitarian, Alicia Keyes) I want to share with FEMALES an email a female friend sent to me after I asked her to help me find Chilli's 'list'. Here it is (below). Please read aloud the last paragraph!
Can’t locate an all out list but here’s the closest I’ve found. She proceeds to run down a few items on the list. Chilli’s man can’t:
Chilli’s man must be:
Have a six pack (abs)
Be well endowed
Never did she say he needs to be honest, sincere, ambitious, have a since of humor, intelligent, love kids, because we know she has a son. I just find her to be really shallow and self centered.”
Picture above: Beautiful...but she has turned me off big time. Big time. Amazing how attitudes and mindsets can ruin beauty...
Brian E. Payne sharing.