Sunday, September 30, 2007

Hypocrisy: The Black Response to Racism

A few days ago I got lost in an area that’s known to those of us living in the south’s hotbed for gentrification as International Village. Getting lost is nothing new to me these days. I still consider myself “new to the city”. Wet behind the ears! A newbie! An addition to the ever changing city that’s losing its blackness: Atlanta, Georgia. Even the first chocolate city, DC, could not escape the entourage of Mid-town-type men buying up all the abandoned real estate. A power move that forces the blacks to subdivision haven: the suburbs. The new place for big city crime. Look out Kennesaw and Gaithersburg lifelong residents. Your neighborhoods are going to hell. Those people Chris Rock hates are comin with their loud rap music and loitering antics.

After becoming a resident of the state of Georgia, and one in thousands of transplants in the Atlanta metro area I continue to get confused with 285, 20, 75, and 78. Maybe it is me, but the highways appear to be interconnected in such a way that links up eventually. Perhaps some lifelong peach or falcon will help me out. Send me an email. After you send that email definitely continue to read my story:

I am not sure why that buzzing area that looked to be a place where chickens roam has the title International Village considering the only elements of internationalism are Mexican and Asian-themed restaurants. Physical structures bearing the names Pancho’s and New Seoul are only a couple of dining places that caught my attention when I was direction discombobulated. By the way, it has to be against health department code to hang roasted ducks in windows. Talk about great window space marketing!

Obtaining directions back to my rude Indian neighborhood and newly litter-filled by blacks former condo community was surely a reminder that certain areas in the south are also becoming a semi-diverse metropolises, and of course the ghettoism of littering has made its way to places of living that pride themselves on seclusion. Just can’t get a way from blacks who don’t care about where they lay their heads.

After three wasteful stops and attempting to communicate with nine people from Vietnam, a small village in Mexico, or wherever I began to get irritated. I was not frustrated by getting lost any longer; it was my hidden and subconscious racist thoughts that caused me to yell at the top of my lungs. At that moment, I thought to myself, ‘These damn foreigners! I can’t believe they come to these façade of an united states, and refuse to speak the language that they will have to use while reciting the pledge of American citizenry.’ Can you believe that not one individual spoke a coherent English sentence? Unbelievable! What was also hard to fathom was the level of racist anger I possessed at that moment. I was spouting all types of slurs, and throwing all types of racism into the atmosphere. And, why? Because poor little bigoted Brian was lost and could not find his way to his place of solitude that’s turning into a miniature housing authority. A place that he would rather be all day anyway. Staying in my confines shields me from the nastiness that I was displaying in make-believe International Village. I was a racist with no concern for how my disposition was affecting those short brown skin men and women. I must have scared them with my big back, big head, and black black skin. Their words had to be: ‘What in the hell is wrong with this spook?’

Spook is such a derogatory term. It is demeaning. It is the worst descriptive term a white man could call a black man. Being called a nigger has lost its sting for most of us, but we still had the need to have it buried even when we continue to act like a damn N-word! Look at that: N-word. Why do we walk around here saying this? It looks and sounds stupid. What are we first graders? Why is there a need to literally control this word? Is racism still that hurtful, or is it something else causing all the ridiculous attention that Bill O’Reilly has received over the past week? The attention was so severe that Mr. Rainbow/Push Coalition decided to go on the O’Reilly Factor after denying invitation after invitation for years. I guess if Jesse is upset all of us should be.

However, I am not one of the countless black people fired-up over Bill speaking his mind. There was no reason for me to get my Hanes boxers in a knot when in fact what Bill O’Reilly said was not racist! Not even close. If you have only heard the parts of the audiotape that CNN published to the world (in their efforts to boost their ratings) please go back and take a listen to the entire transcript, and then remove yourself from the ‘I am a victim of racism’ posture. After sitting in this REAL place for a moment, you will discover that what Bill said was not bleeding with prejudice. In fact, what he said was not even inflammatory. But, CNN wanted us to believe it was - in another attempt for them to get more of us to watch their network while never disclosing to the public that they are way behind Fox in viewer-ship. The facts are not mine!

What is inflammatory is how so many black people have become hypocrites like those we really do not like: Some White People. I find it two-faced that we (black folk) will say to each other, ‘I pray no black person shows their behind up in this black restaurant and I hope we get decent service up in this black restaurant.’ But, when a white person thinks and says this he is a racist. Now, that is not unbelievable. I can believe that we are suspicious and critical of each other, but no one else can be. This is an affect of slavery. The excessively critical and baseless suspicion part. Something the inventors of slavery in America know we will never be able to shake: Self Hatred.

The very essence of hypocrisy is within us, and we need to stop allowing some egotistical zealot control our emotions. Stupid is what I called myself when I began to get mad at Mr. O’Reilly. Then I thought: ‘I need to have control over my feelings. Bill O’Reilly should not have this much power over me.’ If I was able to do this, why couldn’t all of Black America do it? I will tell you why: We continue to subject ourselves to their (the system’s) plan. We are so subjugated that the power we slowly gain day after day is quickly diminished because we have no clue of how not to give our precious power to someone else.

Of all people, Bill O’Reilly, dominated our hearts, minds, and spirits last week. An unintelligent and controversy-seeking man did all of this to us after we were successful at rallying against this decade’s most popular injustice: The Jena 6. Additionally, as we were fighting against this injustice we had a black man telling a judge and jury that it is okay for a black man to call a black woman a bitch. Of all people, Isaiah Thomas, said this with the confidence that other black men would agree. Whoa!

I ask again: Who is winning this battle? Last week I was convinced we were close to pulling ahead, and then we allowed our hyper-sensitivity and an arrogant former black unsportsmanlike basketball star to set us back.

Bill, you won! Go ahead and do what you always do: Gloat!

http://www.cnn.com/2007/SHOWBIZ/TV/09/26/oreilly.race/#cnnSTCVideo

Black Hypocrisy appears to be conveniently infectious considering Brian Nichol’s new defense strategy states that years of racism caused him to kill innocent people in Fulton County’s courthouse a couple of years ago. Another black man not taking responsibility for his destructive acts. Sarcastically laughable and dangerously pathetic!

http://crime.about.com/od/current/a/brian_nichols.htm

Written by Muata. Inspired by that person who called and asked me, “Did you hear what Bill O’Reilly said?” I heard his comments, I ain’t offended, and I will still be concerned about one of us showing their behind up in a black restaurant because we do cut a fool now and then. If ya black ya know what me talkin’ bout!

21 comments:

Muata said...

Reader Response:

Wow. Bill O'Reilly made a racist statement. To me that is clear. Now whether you get upset about it or not is a completely different story. It's interesting that in this article you call yourself a racist. Can you as a Black person be racist? This is a question debated by many sociologists, anthropologists and intellectual scholars. Most would say no, you may be prejudiced but racist no. Why? Because racism implies power. Thus only those members of the privileged class who have and continue to create the social, cultural and institutional boundaries that extoll privilege and preference on their own group while at the same time excluding others. And who in this country has the most seated power not only in goverment but in the conducting of business? Yup. White Americans. Now in Afghanistan it may be a whole entire grouping but you get the point.

To say racism is not tied to organizational social structure is then reducing the conversation to simply I like or don't like (preference) and what harm is that if you don't have the power to influence. Media is a powerful influencer wouldn't you say and Bill O'Reilly when he is speaking through a mass communication medium is influencing and thus when he is on the air he can choose to abuse this power or not. I don't care what he says to his Country Club cohorts while they're playing a round of golf but I do care what he contributes to the air waves and to the large listening audience when as Bill O'Reilly the news reporter he's contributing to the cultural consciousness of this nation. In that moment I believe he added to the stereotyping of Black people and whether he sees it or not in that way does not change that fact. Enough people are upset to warrant this. The fact is if the listener is offended that's all that matters. It's no time for Bill O'Reilly to dig in his heels with self-righteousness, simply apologize for the intent (if none was really intended) and move on.

That's it that's all but had to comment. Love to agree and disagree with your blogs. Keep em coming.

-MD

Muata said...

What a fabulous commentary! So True! I related to everything you wrote. I've been where you were and have had the same feelings, and have had to step outside of the "box" which is SR and re-evaluate myself, my thought process and my feelings towards a great deal of things. Something else that I can't understand... when our people say they are going to vote for Obama b/c of his race! We've got people listening to Tom Joyner & Michael Baisden and they are being persuaded to follow these nuts instead of research themselves who they should vote for. Whaddaa heck! But that's a different commentary.. so anyway my e-mail response wasn't supposed to be this long.

-SR

Muata said...

Reader Response:

Love it...and for the record, I was not offended at Bill O'Reilly either. We need to check Brother Isaiah Thomas, that's who offended me. :)

You're right. When I visit "OUR" establishments the first thing I look at is "does it look clean" and "lord I hope the folks know how to provide some decent customer service without the attitude." So if I'm thinking that I know the Bill O'Reilly's of the world are thinking it too!

-BC

Muata said...

Muata responds to BC:

Thomas is flat out wrong!!!!!!!!!!! Disrespecting a sista like that, and guess what? Not too many black men are condemning him! Where are the so called STRONG brotha's to address this disrespect?

-Muata

Muata said...

Muata asks a question:

Question: Where in the Hell is the uproar over Thomas's statement about sista's?

I will admit that I have been guilty of calling a black woman (and a white one) the B-word before. So, I ain't trippin and leaving myself out there like I am a saint. But, where is the uproar? If a white person would have said this blacks would be SHOUTING! We are Hypocrites!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

-Muata

Muata said...

Reader Response:

Not really! EVERYTHING is not black vs. white. Assholes are assholes some with brown trim some with pink trim.

-PM

Muata said...

Muata responds to PM:

You did not address the question. I find that too many of us blacks do this when the truth is the truth or when we know deep down that one of us wrong. This is typically not you, Mr. PM. We will never gain any legitimacy with our 'arguments' as long as we continue to yell and scream at a white man who doesn't like us anyway; and then remain silent when a brotha does and says stupid crap. The Culture of Silence within our community is killing us. We won't even condemn when we should! Did we shout when Imus insulted black women? We did. Why not now? Again, HYPOCRITES!

I ain't going to give any black person a free pass because he/she is black. No, I will not. This is a true disrespect of the ancetors when this is done!!

-Muata

Muata said...

PM finally answers Muata's question:

Please, you already know the answer. The average black does not critically think before responding. The uproar is denied because IT'S EASIER to blame whites.

-PM

Muata said...

Muata responds to PM:

Whites know that it is easy for us to blame them so some of them do/say things to get us all upset. We are so typical! This is their way of CONTROL.

-Muata

Muata said...

Reader Responds:

And being an asshole and speaking down to your subordinates is about
power. And Thomas' assertion that it's ok for him and not for a white
guy is absurd. I have called several women that both in their face and behind their backs. I was wrong everytime. At the time(in my younger years) I was angry at women so I didn't give a damn. Wrong is wrong.

Thomas' harrassment feeds into that stereotype that black males are sexually charged creatures of the flesh. LAME LAME LAME.

Married with kids and he harrasses an ugly chick at work. HMMM That's
all about power. Myabe she had a good "rep". Either way Thomas is an
idiot that "never took his mind of basketball".

-LS

Muata said...

Reader PM Responds again:

By the way Isiah was A DAMNED FOOL for making an ignorant ass statement in public!

-PM

Muata said...

Reader Responds:

I agree with you, Where is the Uproar!

We as a collective group should not allow anyone, be it black or white or any other color to disrespect our women! We have to learn to hold all folks accountable when they disrespect us especially if they look like us. If we allow our own to get away with disrespecting our women, then how can we expect others not to do the same and if they do, how can we then choose to call them on it when we didn't call our own on it! Yeah, HYPOCRITES! Disrespect is Disrespect regardless of who is spouting the SHIT, and until we realize that we will never rise above to the level were we can be taken seriously.

Hell, Right is Right and WRONG IS WRONG!

-EFJ

Muata said...

Muata and EFJ discusses raising our young men:

EFJ-

Mr. Thomas just in affect to our young men it is onay to call black women B's!

-Muata

Muata-

You are so right, but we as parents, need to combat that type of ignorant information being told to our children. Sure, they may hear negative things but we as parents need to install in our boys that derogatory name calling of anyone especially of women is wrong and will not be tolerated.
And we can do that, in fact, we do that. But yes, you are right, Thomas has just told our youth that it's okay to call black women out of their name.

-EFJ

EFJ-

I hope you do understand that what you tell your son in your parenting at times is not as strong as the male culture. That destructive culture is real! Don't be mistaken. Anyway, you are right. We do need to continue to do the parenting, but I must say that what my son's mother and I instill in our son can be torn down by one convincing idiot at school or on tv.

-Muata

Muata said...

Reader PM Responds to EFJ:

We are NOT a collective group. Isiah is wrong for feeling that this is acceptable and so many women are wrong for accepting it. We do have to hold people accountable yet that is an individual choice. Plenty of people actively participate in conversation, thoughts, and actions that may be deemed offensive. Bitch, Ho, Dog, Nigger, cracker.

That woman fought for her convictions, meanwhile there are a 100 groupies hanging around the team hotel answering to the word bitch with a smile.

-PM

Muata said...

Reader EFJ Responds to PM:

You're right we are not a collective group, we are all individuals and participate in individual conversations but we want to project to the world we are a collective group when the Bill O'Reilly's or the Imus' of the world disrespect us openly and all I'm saying is that when someone in Washington's position says to the world that it's okay for black men to call black women bitches, it's wrong and we need to react to him and his comments just like it was O'Reilly or Imus saying it. And yes, there are millions of women answering to the titles Bitches and Ho but it goes back to allowing it to get this far out of hand in the first place.

-EFJ

Muata said...

Reader PM responds to EFJ:

Prime example of Hypocrisy. We are all guilty on some level. PROJECT A FRONT. Please! Isiah Washington??????? Women get too emotional sometimes to think rational.

-PM

Muata said...

Muata responds to PM:

Now, what in the world does women thinking rationally or not have to do with this convo? I am lost???? The issue is Thomas. Let's stay focused here without moving in a direction of taking the heat off him. He and those women who answer to bitch are mentally jacked-up! However, it is a hatred that too many of us men have toward women that created this situation. And, guess what? The best of us men have a hatred toward our women because we fail to deal with our inadequacies. It was not Eve who screwed-up the world. No, it was weak ass Adam. I use this fairytale because when God came back to the Garden He called out to Adam, and Adam was hiding. We (men)have been hiding in our short-comings for far too long!! We (men) are the problem. Our women have done nothing but support our whack behinds. And, then we go and call someone who could be our momma a bitch. Such a disgrace!!

-Muata

Muata said...

Reader BC responds:

That's the part that hurts. Meaning there are alot of brothers out there that feel the same way. An you wonder why sisters are always "looking for a nice guy". Brothers view toward sistas are so distorted mainly due to upbringing or lack there of!

-BC

Muata said...

Reader LS responds:

We don't love them hoes!

Do we have to echo again? "Thomas was wrong" duh we all agree. There are tons of women who answer to anything you call them. There are some men that will call them anything they will answer to. The real key is don't let that man or woman be you.

Seriously.

Who said Thomas was a man of conviction and a source of wisdom. Hell hs momma saved his ass from the hoods. He is widely known as a mommas boy. If he thinks its ok to call a woman a bitch and those that answer are just lame.

The woman he harrassed, umm, 11.6 million? I acutally think punitive damages are overrated in harrassment cases. In my opinion there should be criminal charges with sexual harrassment.

-LS

Muata said...

Reader PM Responds:

Thinking rational has tons to do with this. The fault is a two way street. Men who do this are wrong. Women who allow it are wrong.

He is guilty and was found guilty only because someone had the courage to challenge him. He should feel like the ass that he acted like - but unfortunately the next set of groupies will ease that uncomfort.

The hatred is more at themselves than at the women. At the same time many women have reduced themselves to accepting disrespect. Most of the men are locked up and MIA. Where are the mom's, grandma's, aunts, sisters, and cousins holding these men accountable?

-PM

FREEDOM said...

Freedom Responds to PM last response:

The question was asked, “Where are the mom's, grandma's, aunts, sisters, and cousins holding these men accountable? Here is one of them!

My brother is one of these filthy mouth men that talk to women any kind-of way. It is degrading and disgusting and I have told him this on several occasions. My mother has also voiced her displeasure to him and the young women that he directed his anger towards. I have also voiced my concerns to him on how he talks to his so-called “women”. His reply was, “If that silly broad lets me talk to her like that, than she deserves it”. I have even spoken with one of the young ladies and told her that she does not deserve that abuse and to know her own self-worth. And, if that negro cannot treat her right, which I know if you love someone you take damn near anything from them. But, you have to realize that it is obvious that he does not love you back, because if he did then clearly he would not behave in that manner.

There are many women with different “titles” telling men about their misuse of their vocal cords. Sadly, many of the ole fashion grandma’s are died. The ones that would pop you in yo’ mouth with every disrespectful word that they heard from someone else that you said.

Both sexes need to learn the proper way to communicate with each other. What happened to mothers tell your daughters and fathers tell your sons? We need to know so that our children, their children, and we will respect each other through our words.

Many men are sometimes displeased with themselves and end –up taking their frustrations out on the woman. Black men need the black women and we (black women) are there for our black men. Black man, I know you must be frustrated at times with this world, which seems to always want to play some cruel sick joke on you. I do understand. But please communicate with your black women with words that are not scarring and hurtful.

-Freedom