Thursday, September 23, 2010
Guilty Silence is Long
We avoid the conversations knowing full well that a many black men we want to believe are on the up and up are predators of young men. Young men who are looking for manhood devotion and love. But, for some insane reason black people are quick to defend the so called leader, pastor, teacher, and/or Uncle Sammy. Which in my humble – but extremely forceful opinion gives these weak and life destroying men a free pass to corrupt fragile lives. Lives that are in most cases in need of educational, mental, and spiritual guidance.
I am not surprised by the recent allegations made against Bishop Eddie Long. Not at all! Preachers can be gay. Preachers can be molesters. They are not immune from engaging in behavior that many find unusual and homophobicly disturbing.
I see Mr. Long as a man searching. Searching for constant validation. A man who needs attention. His declaration that he wears muscle shirts, saggin jeans, huge belt buckles, glistening ear rings, black diamond studded rings, and gold medallions to identify with the hip hop and young adult culture is a bunch of garbage. A lie that he expects to cover up his psychological indiscretions and personal battles within.
My lingering question, why can’t his people, his congregation see him and others like him as what he displays? He does not exude confidence. Strength. Balance. Humility. He by all accounts is a grown juvenile who elevated himself to a Bishop and Spiritual Leader that boys call Daddy. One who preys on people in need of saving. Saving from what the world spews. That can be just about anything, by the way! In this case, these people are in the need of more than God. They need a way to make ends meet financially and emotionally. But yet, the preacher with the mindset to capitalize off the insecurities of man/woman presents him/herself as what is needed and desired to be saved. From here a dependency, that the preacher slyly and secretly wants, is set-up. Developed in a way that high-jacks the emotions of vulnerable people.
So, New Birth and most mega churches are full of people searching. Looking for something or someone to save them from life events. They rarely realize that the mirror is their best weapon. Their most appropriate tool for surviving. Not some man who spends more time in the mirror than a woman. Not some man who mask himself with the wealth that was given to him by those who came to him – to the church naked, spiritually deficient.
Bishop Eddie Long through this drama whether true or not needs to be put on trial for the worst crime committed on God’s people:
Creating a Following that Bows Down to Man, and not The Almighty
He's no different than the Hebrew Bible’s Pharaoh. No different than the Book of Esther’s king that wanted Mordecai to bow down.
That’s his crime. His inappropriateness.