I tried not to give any say to the Tiger Woods saga. I really did. I have actually tried my best not to say his name – but after two occurrences pertaining to his personal messiness I changed my mind.First, a friend shared the following quote with me:
“A man is only faithful as his options.”
What does that mean? Well, my take on it is if a man’s options (women) are abundant he is more prone to cheat or if a man’s options (women) are limited he is less likely to cheat. Now, how does that play out? Let’s use Atlanta as an example or any other major urban city:
More women than men dictates that a man will be more tempted to cheat. The options are too widespread for him to allow these ‘desperate’ women to run around untapped. Here is another example: If a man decides to limit his running of the streets (go home instead of going to Lucky Lounge) he somewhat limits his options of seeing or being prey for these ‘desperate’ women. Well, Publix is a dangerous place for non self controlled men. It is a skillful art to control the penis, and a day to day struggle!
Second, I decided to watch one of those celebrity news shows…again (I am hooked) – and it has been reported that Tiger may have had up to ten mistresses. Now, you tell me, what man can handle ten women? Who has the physical and mental stamina to mingle with ten ‘desperate’ women? Also, what idiot for a man believes he can manage all those menstrual personalities? Hell, one is enough! I want to believe that the latest money chasers, adulteress, and/or fame seekers are not legitimate mistress. If not, Tiger is more of an idiot (like most of us men who serial cheat or have serially cheated) than I thought.
He first became an idiot to me when he made a point to tell the world that he is not black – but I still respect the brotha…well, mixed Asian-Black guy, with all my heart! Haven’t these high profile black men learned that in the end the ONLY group that will stand with them is the same men and women Tiger denied?
Blacks
By the way, there would not be a Cheetah if there were not a Jezebel…
A comparison to Jezebel (Tiger’s ten women) suggests that a female is a whore masquerading as a good girl, who by manipulation and/or seduction misleads men (idiots like Tiger and too many other men) into sins of sexual immorality (cheating); sending them to hell (destroying families).
I will not under any circumstances remove responsibility from men who cheat. However, to cheat it takes two. All these allegedly accommodating women had to know Tiger is married. Let’s address that instead of beating the same drum: Men Cheat. What about these trifling and DESPERATE women?
Brian E. Payne sharing…hoping for a response.
22 comments:
Reader Response:
When a man/woman cheats....they also cheat on their children, in-laws and etc. If you're not going to be committed...don't get it in.
-PL
Reader Response:
Great piece Brian, I have a story for you in the near future over a brew and or cigar that resonate with this piece!!
No kidding TEN at one TIME (DAM FOOL) one at one time is enough.
However, the money made it a little easier than the common man could, stay cool Bro.
-AC
Reader Response:
I can't believe the top story of this morn's new was tiger's mamma in law going to ER. That's crazy. Lol.
-MP
Reader Response:
AAAAAAAAAAMEN!
-RS
Reader Response:
No women bit on this one...............................
wow!
-PM
Reader Response:
I still can't believe these women refuse to comment.
-PM
Muata responds to PM:
I have unwillingly had the Tiger Woods discussion with several females over the past two days. One thing has been similar in the chats:
Not many women are addressing the fact that these women Tiger was with made an "immoral" decision to bump uglies with him. Not one female has been as adamant in their disdain with the Jezebels as they are towards the Cheetah. I had a young lady (38 yrs old) tell me today, "I can't watch him anymore because he is disgusting."
What? Isn't the female carrying on with Tiger just as disgusting? Isn't she a willing home wrecker?
I am not looking to transfer responsibility on this - but will these females get heckled/boo-ed too?
I stand by this: The female has the control to stop all this infidelity. Men apparently will be what they are: Infidels. It started with Abraham. He was a Biblical Player!
-Muata
PM responds to Muata:
Many are hypocritical................................ So used to pointing the finger and displaying a victim mentality. Some can see themselves as the other woman. Just like men fall prey to lust and temptation, some of these women choose to sleep with married men because of his status in this shallow society. Some are even more attracted to married men because they envy the wifes position. Silence speak volumes in this case.
-PM
Reader Response:
I'm glad you mentioned the actions of these women. It's obvious that he is wrong. It's also obvious that they are wrong. It's also interesting that many of these women wait to report the infidelities and seem to enjoy the attention thay get when they jump in line to admit they consciously slept with a married man.
-HG
Reader Responds to Muata:
And that is the truth of the matter. Men do what they do, because they can. If women were to put their cattish ways away and send them home, we wouldn't see the rampant disintegration of family that we see today. Too many women have bought into immoral living. The bad thing is that many consider themselves god-fearing beings. I know many a woman who gave herself the task of intentionally and potentially destroying a family, just so she could sleep with another woman's husband.
I also see today that many of our women have become just as debased in how they live as their caucazoid counterparts whose behavior they've strongly began to model.
Truthfully, I expect it from the euro woman, as it has always been part of who she is. The euro woman always shows greater concern with obtaining financial stability/coercion through the use of her body--which she doesn't consider a temple in the way we've been taught--because that's how she's raised. ;-)
Sisters, on the other hand, do it and, most times, get nothing from it but used. Now, that doesn't make it right, because it's not. When it's sisters doing it, take Superhead, for instance, I am totally disgusted.
When it comes to Tiger, with the exception of saying that boy is euro obsessed and confused, I ain't got to much to say. He is who he is.
-Female
Reader Response:
That is soo true! I like how you presented your point.
-KK
Reader Response:
Brian (All),
Lord knows I have tried to stay above and beyond even acknowledging this whole "Tiger" thing. Mostly because its a fact that America loves nothing more than to feed off of the dirt of a celebrity. But good god you can't get away from it. Either this man has some control issues, insecurity issues or is just plain stupid (or a combination of all 3). In any event... Check out the latest installment of the Tiger Chronicles that just has me baffled.
http://bossip.com/189274/mistress-says-tiger-is-the-whitest-black-boy-ever/#more-189274
-DM
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DM responds to Female:
APPLAUSE!!!!!
You Said it!!! I agree with your statements 1000%. Not excusing or condoning Tiger but as you put it... He wouldn't have anyone to cheat with if these women sent him away. As Pat put it, they knew he was married and they were willing participants. Now they all want to feed on his carcass to see how much they can cash in on the sexcapades.
The media and the world if focusing on Tiger but the truth be told, this happens on an everyday level too.
Well said.
-DM
Reader Response:
I've stayed on the sidelines on this one and I listen to people try to make sense of the whole thing. The one thing that I see people doing wrong is trying to look at this as if they can even relate. We are talking about what "men" do and "women"
do as if Tiger woulds fall into the same category as the rest of the men in the world.
He is no different from several of the NFL or NBA Stars. Michael Jordan, Charles Barkley, Dwayne Wade, Shaq when it comes to his transgressions. His are no less in number and egregiousness. But what makes Tiger different is that he isn't in a line of work that comes with that reputation. If you know any NBA or NFL guys and you've ever been back to their hotels you would know that there are tons of women waiting for them at the hotel. Then somehow they are miraculously waiting for them when they eat. You'd know this because you would have seen it.
Tiger on the otherhand plays a sport where you penalize yourself and it's just you and your caddy against the field. He hasn't been on a team since he was 21. He has been Tiger and whoever who chose to carry his bag throughout this period. In a sense he is all alone. Golfers tend to stick to themselves and their families. Not like the team sport guys who all hang out after the game. If you lived in a city where the stars come out alot you will notice one thing, You never see a golfer with another golfer.
The fact that he carried on such a tremendous amount of relationships says to me that Tiger is a lonely guy. It seems like most of this started after his dad died. I am not close to my dad but he was Tigers best friend. It seem to have set Tiger off and thus we have this scandal. NO EXCUSES for Tiger. He did it and now he needs to figure out what to do with his family.
But for us to pretend that we can have a discussion about what men are like or what women are like based on Tiger Wood's transgression is absurd. His life is nothing close to normal. He has no friends at all. The friends he claims to have are Mark Omeara and a couple of other 65 year old Senior PGA players. I'd hardly call that friendship.
The biggest mistakes Tiger made were getting married so early and not working on his depression issues. I lost my brother at 20 and when he died I behaved the same way Tiger did. Does that make either one of us right? No way.
It pains me most that some black people seem to be happy with all of this because he is married to a Swedish woman and because he said "Im not black". Interestingly enough, I am willing to bet that none of those people have a half black father and a mother from Thailand. What the article didn't say is that eh wasn't tryin to deny being black, he was simply not choosing to adhere to the 1\32 or 1/16 rule or be lumped in one category seemingly to deny the other parts of his heritage. It's not liek he is "part" indian like some of us like to say. His mom is THAI. I read an article the other day where a woman was glad that he got caught up and went on to say that she wouldn't even have voted for Obama if his wife wasn't black. SOME PEOPLE SHOULDN'T BE WRITERS.
In the end, Tiger Woods is not normal and we can pass judgement and make claims that men are dogs and women share the burden in this situation but truthfully we can't deny that he is not normal and that there is nothing usual about this situation. For instance, how man of you men on here married on unmarried have had the option to sleep with or turn down a porn star? I'd say none! We can't pretend to understand.
What I see is a man in need of help. His father said he would change the world. He certainly has had an impact. Maybe he will fall short, or maybe he will spend the next few years of his life standing for something other than winning Green jackets. I pray for the latter.
-LS
Reader Response:
I think its comical that folks condem him as if we are all so perfect and impeccably moral and women pretend that they would have turned Tiger down if they approached them and made an offer. * Its really awesome to know this group is the most moral of them all.*
-MP
Muata responds to MP:
I am so glad you went there. I for one the last one to say that my morals are on the up and up. Nope. No way! Also, those of us who are engrossed in religion (Christianity) fail to acknowledge that Samson and Abraham were philanders. Male whores! Why do I go here? Because all of us claiming to love God and His word need to always put forward the history of man before judgment is rendered. The same folk they praise via scripture were the Tiger's. Once again, no excuse given for Tiger's behavior! Perhaps, we should consider that humans are fighting a losing battle: Created, given laws to live by, break the so call Mt. Siani laws, repent, give a testimony, seek forgiveness, then do same sin or another one. Live as you are...Just be upfront with what and who you are. If that is a cheater don't get married...
-Muata
DM responds to MP:
I'm sure plenty of women would've turned him down. Obviously not these women but everyone is not of the same moral yolk.
-DM
MP responds to DM:
Moral yolks indeed vary. We're a very self righteous society and luv to profess perfection at the expense of another's mistakes as if we're void of those characteristics that could land us in the same situation. Judgement is as a much a vice as infidelity.
-MP
MP responds to LS comment:
Good statement.
-MP
Muata respods to MP:
We learned judgment from the BEST, God Himself. If we are to be God-like, we definitely picked up the judgment gene from Him. He da master of judgment. Ask Moses...
-Muata
MP responds to Muata:
It is what it is...pretty much.
-MP
Muata responds to MP:
u know me. i am going to hit these holy rollers every time with their very own 'word'. all these churches and christians but no morals????? i thought yesterday: if some movie producer were to produce a movie that covers the old and new testament from beginning to end without removing
any details it would be a movie that i would not go see. would be too difficult for me to watch. it would be rated xxx and rrr e.g. brutal murder, judgment, sex (rapes), all types of violence, hatred, etc!
-Muata
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