Thursday, November 30, 2006

A Man’s Occupational Aspiration and Need: Pimp and Prostitute

Colonial Drive Elementary School was the stomping ground for my primary school education. It was a place that sheltered us little black and white kids from the world. The teachers were so protective and so caring. They were extensions of our mothers and fathers. In all of their efforts to guide us they routinely asked us in open forum the following question: What do you want to be when you grow up? Still to this day I remember various teachers cornering me with this question and demanding an answer. It was their way of “keeping us on track”. I also recall the litany of responses that were murmured by my fellow third and fourth graders. The professions doctor, lawyer, policeman, teacher, etc. were yelled with passion and confidence. Those were the good ole days when even an eight year old could NOT get away with saying something innocent, but borderline disrespectful. The disrespect I am speaking of is Brian’s response to the question: What do you want to be when you grow up? My response: A Pimp!

For years, I have often wondered why I responded with A Pimp. My uncles were not pimps and I never knew what a pimp really was until I entered middle school. I believe the introduction to pimp ‘in was mentally formulized for me while “devilishly” watching R rated movies. You know those 70’s movies that glorified a black man with a big black Cadillac and numerous women running up to the car to touch his fur coat? It was those scenes that captured my attention. I was infatuated with the power this man appeared to have. Women and a big car equaled: Pimp ‘in. What young brother did not care to have a big car and plenty of women at his disposal when he was growing up? Fellas, don’t answer that? Keep reading.

I can only speak for myself; this was the epitome of success. Not only was this brother able to convince women to sleep with other men, he also got a portion of the payment. Easy money!! How I wish my 8 to10 hour days generated easy money. No dice for me! I have to deal with whining employees on the regular. The loot does not come effortlessly. And, another thing that does not come easy for me is my understanding of the black culture’s continued fascination with pimps and the pimp ‘in lifestyle.

Pimps up, Ho’s Down. You remember that documentary. I do. The featured pimps were the shyt and their prostitutes were controlled. Hold up! Maybe I am on to something: The pimps were the shyt and the prostitutes were controlled. How often are we (men) trying to be the man? The coolest cat? The most fly? The one with the most materialization? And, how often are we attempting to be in control? In control of our manhood? In control of our man of the house status? And yes, even in control of our women.

Is the pimp always in control? He never gets his hands dirty unless his flock gets out of line. The pimp is the reservoir for the money. The savings account is in his glove compartment. The prostitute is the work horse. She is getting the dollars while on her back and/or knees. However, I believe the prostitute is the one who is really in control while the pimp and the John are thinking they are the SHYT. Why do I think this? Not sure. But, I am sure that a man wants to be in control. So, ladies, why not let him be your “pimp”. Rub his fur coat (stroke his ego). If you are not doing this ladies, part of the pimp is bound to come out of him in some way or another i.e. getting a woman that will be his personal prostitute who understands the necessity of ego stroking.

Written by Muata. Inspired by that fourth grade teacher that threw me out of class for proudly saying: “I want to be a pimp when I grow up.” Inspired by that woman out there who has mastered the stroke. Bless your heart!


FREEDOM said...

To have a pimp that understands the necessity of being responsible for his personal prostitute spiritually, emotionally, and physically.

I would proudly stand under my pimp, while he covers and protects me!


Muata said...

Feedback from a reader and Muata responds:

Trivial peace if you ask me. A woman that submits to
her man is not a whore nor is a man that takes care of
his women a pimp. You are just searching to be heard.

If a tree falls in the forest and no one is there to
hear it does it make noise? NIGGA!



You know what? This is exactly what I wanted when I decided to write commentaries. Feedback: constructive, meaningful, positive, and/or negative. It is all in the process of learning from each other. One thing you must keep in mind is that I am a WRITER and most writers do not look for approval from the readers. Writers like myself write to generate thought and critical thinking that will prompt though-provoking responses, and not a knee-jerk spout. I am not searching for anything but a platform to discuss matters of importance. This is my way of sharing my talent with the word.

Also, stop using other peoples words. Put quotes around that sentence/question that has been
re-used for centuries. Holla at ya boy!


Muata said...

Pat Medley responds to the ladies:

Critical thinkers will respond in a positive manner. Westernized and "civilized" black women will be clueless and frustrated......................................and lonely! Tell them I said it.

-Pat Medley


Many of us (men and women) will be lonely if we do not get this relationship thing right.

I just hope the readers especially women "get it". If not, they are headed for NUMEROUS lonely nights.

Also, NUMEROUS brothers will end up "circulating" women in and out of their bedroom if they do not work at staying devoted to the relationship. I guess for men between the age of 20-40 this is perfectly okay. You know what we use to say, "Ain't no pu$%y like new pu$%y." With that attitude circulating is just fine for most of us men.


Muata said...

Reader Responses:

Sorry, but I do not need a pimp in my life.


You are a sick dude !


Muata said...

Male reader responds to Muata and EJ's conversation. Then Muata responds to the reader:

When your bank account gets bigger you buy more stuff, when you get bigger you buy more cloths, when your hair grows you cut it. Why is it when people grow "apart"
they are expected to stay together?

-Male Reader

Male Reader-

Unfortunately, we have been led to believe that marriage and/or a relationship is forever. Nothing is forever. Growing apart happens. It is more common than we think. Some of us stay in it knowing we have mentally and spiritually moved on. We, at times, are comfortable with where we are and are willing to put up with the constant arguments and disagreements just so our lives will not change. However, one day we will wake-up and realize that we have spent years unhappy. We stay in it out of fear, and because of the fear of the unknown. Isn't it funny how we "charted" our course of action for our lives, but then we sabotage our lives because we are afraid to leave what is actually making us unhappy? We are getting older, my man! I want peace. I want to love someone again with ALL my heart. Not be afraid to "let it flow". But most importantly, I want to be happy with me, myself, and I. I recommend you and all the other men I known (including myself) do just that before we negatively alter another life e.g. a girlfriend/wife.


FREEDOM said...

Freedom responses to Male Reader:

I think some people are in our lives for a season, while others weather the storm. I just read TJ Jakes Let it GO for 2007. I think he summed it up perfectly!

Let it go for 2007..
By T. D. Jakes

There are people who can walk away from you.

And hear me when I tell you this! When people can walk
away from you: let them walk.
I don't want you to try to talk another person into
staying with you, loving you, calling you, caring about you, coming to
see you, staying attached to you. I mean hang up the phone.

When people can walk away from you let them walk.
Your destiny is never tied to anybody that left.

The bible said that, they came out from us
that it might be made manifest that they were not for
us. For had they been of us, no doubt they would have
continued with us. [1 John 2:19]

People leave you because they are not joined to you.
And if they are not joined to you, you can't make them stay.

Let them go.

And it doesn't mean that they are a bad person it just
means that their part in the story is over. And you've got
to know when people's part in your story is over so that you don't keep
trying to raise the dead.

You've got to know when it's dead.

You've got to know when it's over. Let me tell you
something. I've got the gift of good-bye. It's the tenth spiritual gift, I
believe in good-bye. It's not that I'm hateful, it's that I'm
faithful, and I know whatever God means for me to have He'll give it to me.
And if it takes too much sweat I don't need it. Stop begging people to stay.

Let them go!!

If you are holding on to something that doesn't belong
to you and was never intended for your life, then you need to......


If you are holding on to past hurts and pains .....


If someone can't treat you right, love you back, and
see your worth.....


If someone has angered you ........


If you are holding on to some thoughts of evil and revenge......


If you are involved in a wrong relationship or addiction......


If you are holding on to a job that no longer meets your needs or talents ....


If you have a bad attitude.......


If you keep judging others to make yourself feel better......


If you're ! stuck in the past and God is trying to take

you to a new level in Him......


If you are struggling with the healing of a broken


If you keep trying to help someone who won't even try
to help themselves......


If you're feeling depressed and stressed .......


If there is a particular situation that you are so
used to handling yourself

and God is saying "take your hands off of it,"

then you need to......


Let the past be the past. Forget the former things.
GOD is doing a new thing for 2007!!!


Get Right or Get Left
. think about it, and then .....


"The Battle is the Lord's!"

Muata said...

Reader Response and Muata Responds to Reader:

...this is an excellent piece.

If your definition for a pimp is accurate you should do a PART 2 for the men who can't figure out if they really want to be a pimp, not sure what there role is as a man, and not working on figuring it out. As a woman who works hard to edify and uplift ALL men and one who gets exhausted from trying to figure out a man and his needs, stroking the ego is not the problem. Been there done that. The problem is men not knowing themselves and truly what they want.



It all boils down to us (men) not knowing ourselves and not taking the time to look within. This prevents us from exerting an accurate image of ourselves which leads to continued misrepresentations of our personalities. I have definitely been guilty of this!!


FREEDOM said...


You have made a very strong point: “NOTHING last forever”. Your assessment about love being conditional and not unconditional is correct! I used to think love WOULD conquer ALL. Now I know better, love will fail you.

I guess it could be because sometimes I put people on a pedestal. You know how we can be naive. The devastation of seeing that person that I put on this pedestal FALL is a heartbreaking scene to watch. Trust me. I know I should not have put anyone on a pedestal, nevertheless I did. The affect of the downward trot of that person is mind-blowing and painful to view. The person that I thought so highly of; I know the fault is MINE. I should not have made the horrible mistake of putting any person on a pedestal in the first place. No one should be put on a pedestal because we are all human. However, in the end, truths were revealed and believe you me; I am FOR EVER changed. I can feel a difference: a shift if you will that has over taken me. My outlook is FOR EVER changed. The truth is somehow distorted now.

A relationship that is lopsided will NEVER last because one party is constantly giving while the other party is constantly “getting”. While you offer yourself to another person it is up to that person if they are willing to accept you.

It is funny, but not funny, to see the truth unfold right before your eyes.


At last,

I am SET FREE!!!

You take Care of Yourself.

Peace Out.