tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21548272.post2788278896843604660..comments2023-10-23T13:21:24.662-07:00Comments on Muata's Truth Telling: Millennium Generation Black Men: The New Pacifier Nation?MUATA NOWEhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10163803445038361728noreply@blogger.comBlogger23125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21548272.post-20763910878944647092007-05-02T08:00:00.000-07:002007-05-02T08:00:00.000-07:00Response from EJ:I told Muata a month ago that I w...Response from EJ:<BR/><BR/>I told Muata a month ago that I was going to stop<BR/>responding to every email but I have to say this...It<BR/>is impossible to be in love with a person absent of trust. The minute you lose trust there is no way you can make love work. So to say that a women or man<BR/>should except this type of behavior(cheating) is to say that you should never trust them...which means you should not expect to be in love. Women should<BR/>understand that men don't fall in love with sex....we fall in love with loyalty! When you prove to your man that you truly, not only believe him, but believe in<BR/>him...HE WILL NEVER LEAVE YOU! Yes that does mean you may play the fool sometimes...but we all will have to sacrifice something in the name of Love.<BR/><BR/>-EJMUATA NOWEhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10163803445038361728noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21548272.post-46299053534656523542007-05-01T10:25:00.000-07:002007-05-01T10:25:00.000-07:00Reader RC (female) responds and ask PM (male) a fe...Reader RC (female) responds and ask PM (male) a few questions and PM responds:<BR/><BR/>Good point! I was telling a married male friend about the email and we started talking about why married men may cheat. He stated (somewhat jokingly, or a least I hope) that women aren't doing what they are supposed to do. I think a lot of men and women think that way, but I believe it's too simple. It just seems like that is an easy way to avoid taking responsibility for one's actions.<BR/><BR/>I do have a couple of questions for you? What's your opinion on what happened to "him" (the man who sacrificed for his woman & family) and how can we get him back? Do you think that being that man precludes him from cheating (in what ever manner it may be)?<BR/><BR/>-RC (female)<BR/><BR/>RC-<BR/><BR/>I can't offer a direct answer as to what happened to "him" because I feel it has to do with a multitude of dynamics. That man was living under the morals and values of his own culture (which was not "perfect") in an era where community/village support was commonplace. The gradual and painful transition from slavery into "freedom" has left some extremely deep psychological, moral, emotional, and spiritual wounds. The black man has been in SURVIVAL mode every since. The wounds that I mentioned are rarely even talked about much less dealt with. While he has proven his ability to rise and thrive in the educational, entertainment, religious (which can be separate from spiritual), and business arenas, he has not scratched the surface in RECOVERING from such a traumatic experience. His fear and pride contributes to a continous pattern of non-progressive decision making. A governmental system in the "United" States also plays a role in what happened to him. Welfare, Voters Rights Acts, Minimum Wage, Minimum Job Requirements, Interest Rates, Wall Street, Integration, Religion, Prisons, and even education was and at times is used as weopons against him. That man feels as if he has been RAPED in every imaginable way possible yet he must protect himself "cause life really ain't been no crystal stair".<BR/> <BR/>Getting that man back probably won't happen as long as we all continue to cling on to the values and philosophies of Western "Civilization". He is lost and so is most of his people. We rarely try to connect with our culture via reading and practice. We learn spanish before understanding swahili. We eat, drink, think, and behave in manners that we were introduced to here without knowledge of what our how our ancestors did as families. We even buy into all of these man made holidays but fear watching ROOTS!<BR/><BR/>-PMMUATA NOWEhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10163803445038361728noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21548272.post-50682899694245731992007-04-30T13:33:00.000-07:002007-04-30T13:33:00.000-07:00MP responds to Muata:if there were no more liberal...MP responds to Muata:<BR/><BR/>if there were no more liberals, who then would challenge the status quo? <BR/> <BR/>i just want to say to everyone that i appreciate this dialogue. while it is deep, it is nice to be able to chat with people who are thinking about social issues on an intellectual level. there is not answer, i don't think so anyway, but to be true to self and stick with what you believe to be right and not be swayed. but i am happy that we have been open enough to discuss this with one another and maybe we all will learn something from the thoughts of another. <BR/><BR/>-MPMUATA NOWEhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10163803445038361728noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21548272.post-4713673085986584332007-04-30T13:01:00.000-07:002007-04-30T13:01:00.000-07:00Muata responds to AJ:If we like it or not this pat...Muata responds to AJ:<BR/><BR/>If we like it or not this pathetic American culture we live in has condone infidelity. It is okay to behave like wild fools. Think about the soap operas some of us watch. Think about how the public turns a blind eye to it. We are becoming numb to it. It is like: so what. I will venture to say that the majority of us are to blame for allowing these things to be “okay”. Not many of us are up in arms with the “immoral acts/behavior” this society has accepted. We carry on like we are in a good world. Moral standards should be at the top of our leaders list, but no we (voters) do not even think about this. We elect a man who cheated on his wife in the white house and then we (black folk) embrace him like we were okay with his cheating ways. And, some of us said they would vote for him again if he could run for office. So, I guess his lying to and cheating on his wife was okay? <BR/><BR/>We all are the problem. All of us! Not one man and not one woman. We are killing our children with all this “liberalism”! <BR/><BR/>-MuataMUATA NOWEhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10163803445038361728noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21548272.post-74355769587388167032007-04-30T12:28:00.000-07:002007-04-30T12:28:00.000-07:00Reader responds:Deciding not to Cheat is a Choice....Reader responds:<BR/><BR/>Deciding not to Cheat is a Choice. Just like deciding not to steal or lie. We can teach our children right from wrong and tell them not to lie, cheat, or steal, but ultimately each has to make this decision on his/her own. We all are faced with these types of decisions each and every day. <BR/> <BR/>Deciding not to cheat is a moral decision. In many cases, that instant gratification outweighs the moral consciousness.<BR/> <BR/>When the consequences of cheating are are greater, MEN/people will think much more before they make that decision to do it.<BR/><BR/>-AJMUATA NOWEhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10163803445038361728noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21548272.post-31313051593505932062007-04-30T12:24:00.000-07:002007-04-30T12:24:00.000-07:00Reader responds to Muata:Its not only a chore for ...Reader responds to Muata:<BR/><BR/>Its not only a chore for a man. Just like you all (men in general –not you) are out there flirting and “getting” women, please believe YOUR woman puts up with that everyday. Understand that you are not the only ones that struggle with the decision.<BR/><BR/>-SW<BR/><BR/>!!!**&&&&!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!<BR/><BR/>Well then I don’t get the point of the email string. I’m sorry. Was it just to persuade women to accept infidelity? Was it to tell me that as a woman I am wrong for expecting a man to be faithful? So then at this point – I should be grateful for this new twist of insight on relationships????<BR/><BR/>-SWMUATA NOWEhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10163803445038361728noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21548272.post-5743229294524325042007-04-30T12:20:00.000-07:002007-04-30T12:20:00.000-07:00Muata responds again:I am not saying that women ha...Muata responds again:<BR/><BR/>I am not saying that women have to “accept” a man’s cheating ways. First of all, he should not be cheating if he is in a committed relationship and the understanding that CHEATING is unacceptable. Please understand that I know as a man that a man will cheat for no reason other than that he wants to and that he can. Morality rarely comes into play. Your feelings rarely come into play. He is behaving as a man who has NOT DECIDED TO DEAL WITH HIMSELF on this level to some degree. He knows he is wrong. Some actually feel remorseful. So, black women please forget about “seeing” what you can do to keep him faithful. You are not a factor. He is the only factor. So, I say chill out and be at peace. Stop trying to change yourself and do this and that. Men really behave on an animalistic level. <BR/><BR/>Do you think we REALLY want to be married? Something has to occur within for us to be ready. We have to be ready for that change. We are not excited about getting married and going through all the drama most women create to get married. And finally, if he is not cheating while married or in a relationship you BEST BELIEVE it is a CHORE to do be a non-cheater. But, guess what, he can do it and be happy with only you. We just have to tap into that conscious that’s says ‘I have to do RIGHT for my children, wife, and for my community.’ Men can do it! <BR/><BR/>By the way, you can question my “man’s say” on this, but I beg you to LISTEN AND TAKE THIS ADVICE I am giving. I am a man. <BR/><BR/>-MuataMUATA NOWEhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10163803445038361728noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21548272.post-72068547632294548182007-04-30T12:19:00.000-07:002007-04-30T12:19:00.000-07:00Muata responds again:Men will cheat. It does not m...Muata responds again:<BR/><BR/>Men will cheat. It does not matter what you are (fine, sexy, fat, tall, short, rich, broke, etc.) or what you do. He does not care. I have said it before: “A man will cheat for NO REAL REASON at all. He will JUST cheat. You CANNOT do anything about it. There is not any pre-work or pre-intervention you can do. He has to decide to be faithful on his on accord. That’s it. It will be in your best interest to ease back. Chill. Let him be himself. If he cheats get rid of him or deal with it. It is that simple. Also, the sooner a woman becomes “okay” with understanding this you will be more at PEACE. This is not to say you must just give up and take his unfaithfulness. Just stop trying to get him to stay at home. Despite your efforts he will possibly throw hi relationship away on a CHEAP FIVE DOLLAR working girl!! <BR/><BR/>Thanks, Mr. JDS for putting this out there!!! <BR/><BR/>-MuataMUATA NOWEhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10163803445038361728noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21548272.post-56708967674941435832007-04-30T07:14:00.000-07:002007-04-30T07:14:00.000-07:00MP responds to Anonymous reader:Despite the fact t...MP responds to Anonymous reader:<BR/><BR/>Despite the fact that you don't think we see eye to eye, this is exactly what I am saying. I am possibly more open in ways, but I believe in gradual evolution to monogamy. Its wonderful when two people find themselves there together. But you cannot get there arbitrarily by imposing junior high school rules. Like I previously said, we will not lose what we want to keep. I do not want my man to feel like he HAS to be there. I do not want to be the ball and chain. I want to be the thing he CHOOSES above all things. <BR/><BR/>-MPMUATA NOWEhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10163803445038361728noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21548272.post-24908512047080520592007-04-30T07:09:00.000-07:002007-04-30T07:09:00.000-07:00Reader Responds to the lingering question: Why men...Reader Responds to the lingering question: Why men cheat?<BR/><BR/>For the longest time we have tried in the courts of public opinion and trivialized the complexity yet simple dynamics of male female relationships as it relates to "Good Woman/Cheating Brothas'" ladies, so you're educated, work hard, pay the bills, take care of home, even got the latest from Victoria Secrets and you can lay in on your man like no other with the Ill nana. But wait a minute, there are no "ENTITLEMENTS" for all that except a good credit score. Sistas' fail to realize it's not about being a "Good Woman" but rather a man's conscious awakening and discipline of monogamy and "age ain't gat nothn to do wid it". Even the good Reverend couldn't defy his inherent nature and it's not a weakness.<BR/><BR/>So Sistas' , erase that "Good Woman" stamp off your foreheads, us brothas' have to step up our game up to a higher level of consciousness, self worth and discipline to help rid our communities one of many dysfunctions..<BR/> <BR/>Peace..<BR/>jds.MUATA NOWEhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10163803445038361728noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21548272.post-89033935489466897092007-04-27T14:47:00.000-07:002007-04-27T14:47:00.000-07:00Muata reacts to AJ's response:I must say it has be...Muata reacts to AJ's response:<BR/><BR/>I must say it has been GOOD for me to read all the comments. EACH AND EVERY ONE. To come to a close with talking about LOVE makes it sweeter (thanks, AJ). Think about it: the initial question shared was basically asking why men cheat. Which can put people on the defense. Then a question concerning LOVE was interjected (thanks, MP) which brought us to a place where we need to be: LOVE talk. This was beautiful. We did it in the confines of RESPECT too. <BR/><BR/>LOVE HAS ALWAYS BEEN THE ANSWER.<BR/><BR/>-MuataMUATA NOWEhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10163803445038361728noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21548272.post-18287643598222659712007-04-27T14:40:00.000-07:002007-04-27T14:40:00.000-07:00Another reader responds to MP:MP-I was going to st...Another reader responds to MP:<BR/><BR/>MP-<BR/><BR/>I was going to stay out of this conversation until your last statement. "I can love you despite you not loving me".<BR/><BR/>A mutual Love is the basis for every true long term relationship. When your in a long term relationship, you fall "in and out of love". Being "in love" is quite different than LOVING someone. You may sometimes lose that "loving feeling", but if you LOVE someone, the one thing you never lose is that LOVE. I always want to be with someone that I know LOVES me, but I want to also to be with someone that respects me. I deserve that, because what ever happens, If your mate truly loves and respects you, they're going to do what's RIGHT BY YOU because they truly love you. Love makes you do the Right Thing.<BR/><BR/>It's not hard to know what's right. You feel it in your heart. So if it feels right to YOU and YOUR partner to haves a open relationship, then good for you, but if it doesn't feel right, a person should not accept less than what they want. You deserve to have what makes you feel good and right, loved, and respected. Define and Expect that love and respect in your relationship.<BR/><BR/>-AnonymousMUATA NOWEhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10163803445038361728noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21548272.post-38972062365949740522007-04-27T14:15:00.000-07:002007-04-27T14:15:00.000-07:00Reader responds to MP:I respect your approach to r...Reader responds to MP:<BR/><BR/>I respect your approach to relationships even though it’s the antithesis of my own. I agree that the happiness of the relationship is not worth placing all kinds of rules on the relationship. However, it seems that that happiness would compel one to self regulate or impose their own boundaries. No, I don’t want to have to establish rules and regulations or be pedantic about the do and don’ts, but I expect to be respected and for me, that means monogamy. It’s curious that people in their 30s and 40s would risk ruining a relationship where they have finally made that elusive connection or found their soul mate, for a false sense of freedom. I call it false because physically or emotionally engaging at will is not freedom. Actually, I believe it’s possible to become bound by those messy, ineffectual entanglements. Larikus reminded us that meeting a person that’s right for you is rare, so I ask again, why run the risk of ruining it. Call me demanding, but my man coming home to me at night is not my only concern. If he has crossed physical, mental or emotional boundaries with other women during the day, then he taints our bed and dishonors me and our relationship when he comes home to me. Larikus may be right. Perhaps, monogamy is not an inherent trait. If that’s true, I’ll choose the mature, responsible, disciplined, monogamous man everyday. <BR/><BR/>Finally, I believe that our brokenness as people has conditioned black women to expect less than honorable treatment from our men. These low expectations create weak men with low aim who, as a result, dishonor themselves and our community.<BR/><BR/>-AnonymousMUATA NOWEhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10163803445038361728noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21548272.post-83114063042911458002007-04-27T13:56:00.000-07:002007-04-27T13:56:00.000-07:00MP Responds to Muata:Muata-First of all, you are t...MP Responds to Muata:<BR/><BR/>Muata-<BR/><BR/>First of all, you are talking me...a girl who has tipped more female strippers than the average man. but, sex can change things for some women and i cannot comment on that. but ponder this: i can love you despite you not loving me. can you allow yourself to be loved?<BR/><BR/>-MPMUATA NOWEhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10163803445038361728noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21548272.post-64333204653009732982007-04-27T13:54:00.000-07:002007-04-27T13:54:00.000-07:00Muata asks MP:Michelle, Where do those feelings th...Muata asks MP:<BR/><BR/>Michelle, <BR/><BR/>Where do those feelings that get all tossed around after the sexing go? Are they just feelings not connected to your emotions? You know as well as I do that sex changes the dynamic. Am I right, Ladies?? When those feelings/emotions get involved things change. Not many women will be okay with that man she is "into with feelings" now hitting something on the side. Come on now. <BR/><BR/>-MuataMUATA NOWEhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10163803445038361728noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21548272.post-87638373733899446142007-04-27T12:47:00.000-07:002007-04-27T12:47:00.000-07:00Muata responds to reader MP and MP response to Mua...Muata responds to reader MP and MP response to Muata's question:<BR/><BR/>MP-<BR/><BR/>Well, well, well. <BR/><BR/>U know most women are not thinking along these lines. They definitely will not agree. <BR/><BR/>So, men are basically in your mind going to cheat?? <BR/><BR/>-Muata<BR/><BR/>Muata-<BR/><BR/>no, not at all. but i know that i like to talk trash and drink cocktails with men and it does not have anything to do with my relationship at home and i know that my man likes women, likes to have cocktail dates, likes a lap dance...but to me, that isn't that deep...the happiness of the relationship is not worth placing all kinds of rules on the relationship. we're grown. we know what we're doing. we won't lose anything we want to keep. <BR/><BR/>-MPMUATA NOWEhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10163803445038361728noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21548272.post-70761041761216771342007-04-27T12:43:00.000-07:002007-04-27T12:43:00.000-07:00Reader Responds to the question: Cheating is a fra...Reader Responds to the question: <BR/><BR/>Cheating is a frame of reference that depends on your personal definition of a good relationship. Monogamy is a totally unnatural state of being and is a result of a natural evolutionary process that occurs over time. People think that they are going to go into a relationship and just one day decide to be monogamous which is a false sense of hope and security and then argue all day because your natural instinct is to wander. If people make their relatioship choices based off of their own feelings and they not be dependent upon the feelings of their partner, ie, I won't cheat if you don't cheat, people will find themselves more content in their relationships. When that person is ready to join you, they will and when you are on the same page, you move on. Now, because I do not care if my man dates other women, I am just that much more intimidating because now he's trying to figure why it's okay. I have found that when we allow our men to be who they are and sometimes that is a man who loves women, they will be who you want them to be because you allow them the space and freedom to be themselves and in most cases that will keep their butts right beside you (their woman) night after night. I think a good woman is one who is willing to meet her man where he is and expects nothing more and nothing less. Everything on top of that is a bonus. <BR/><BR/>-MPMUATA NOWEhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10163803445038361728noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21548272.post-28023268511628409012007-04-27T08:10:00.000-07:002007-04-27T08:10:00.000-07:00Two more readers responds to SJ's question:Too man...Two more readers responds to SJ's question:<BR/><BR/>Too many dynamics to answer in such a general question. I can't speak for all men yet wanting a good woman does not assume physical faithfulness. I've said it many years ago and maitain that an emotional relationship is far more dangerous than a physical relationship when it comes to a man. As far as cheating, most women restrict that definition to physical intimacy......................................................rarely considering financial deceit and hlding secrets as part of the equation.<BR/><BR/>-PM<BR/><BR/>You may be a good woman that cooks, cleans and cater to your man. You may be a woman that take care of the kids and attend church. But in most men eyes you are a good woman, but not that perfect woman. The perfect woman does all that, however also has the perfect body, hair, nails etc..... I concluded that there is no perfect man/woman, but there are several good ones. What is important is who that person really is (the heart), because sometimes your appearance may change, your heart remains the same. <BR/> <BR/>Most black men say they want a good woman, when they really are hurting for that perfect woman. <BR/><BR/>-KLMUATA NOWEhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10163803445038361728noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21548272.post-36316253966304793002007-04-27T08:03:00.000-07:002007-04-27T08:03:00.000-07:00Muata responds to the question from SJ:Many of us ...Muata responds to the question from SJ:<BR/><BR/>Many of us are always trying to prove ourselves. It is called: poor self concept/esteem. We are searching for validation from something or someone. Unfortunately, we do it through destructive means. It is sad, but men have to be catered to to feel worthy at times. When we do not get that type of attention we "venture out" looking for it. We actually hunt for it until we are satisfied. And, we usually find it. It ain't hard. A lot of women are ready to do it initially. Commitment?? Put yourself in the black man's shoes. All these ladies out here willing and able to do what wife or girlfriend is not doing. Would you stay in the candy store or not? Would you find it tough to leave the store? If the man is afraid of commitment it is his conscious talking too. He is afraid that what he has done will come back to bite him in the rear. Not committing is his way of operating out of fear. <BR/><BR/>-MuataMUATA NOWEhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10163803445038361728noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21548272.post-73279367967131097952007-04-27T08:02:00.000-07:002007-04-27T08:02:00.000-07:00Reader Responds with a question: Hi! Nice observat...Reader Responds with a question: <BR/><BR/>Hi! Nice observations and very good editorial piece. <BR/> <BR/>Can you answer this question for me, Muata?<BR/><BR/>Why do our black men say they want a good woman when they actually are afraid of commitment and still want to cheat to prove their worthiness? I am just asking?<BR/><BR/>-SJMUATA NOWEhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10163803445038361728noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21548272.post-70142584217538872242007-04-26T14:05:00.000-07:002007-04-26T14:05:00.000-07:00Reader Responds:AMEN!I feel we, as black folk have...Reader Responds:<BR/><BR/>AMEN!<BR/><BR/>I feel we, as black folk have taken on white folk nasty behaviors and attitudes. I wonder if some of it has to do with the law of child abuse. What I say to that is I will rear and mold my child into the respectful, decent young lady I expect her to be. <BR/> <BR/>I am so sick and tired of women allowing dead beat men, half ass men, and all the other names that are associated with those that make babies and disappear, use them as some sort of machine. Girls...because now, that's what is having babies, must begin to love themselves, and exude self respect and dignity before thinking of lying with some boy. I teach my daughter the importance of self love, respect, and the appreciation of herself and her body. <BR/><BR/>It is so sad that we have lost, and the rate we're going, continue to loose our babies, culture and generations. I'm sick of it all!<BR/>Thanks Brother!<BR/><BR/>-RSMUATA NOWEhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10163803445038361728noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21548272.post-1817243766137481592007-04-26T14:03:00.000-07:002007-04-26T14:03:00.000-07:00Readers Respond:WOW!! This was very insightful!! –...Readers Respond:<BR/><BR/>WOW!! This was very insightful!! <BR/><BR/>–SP <BR/><BR/>I totally agree with you. It's a got damn shame how we've become so passive when it comes to disciplining our children...I've been dating a dude but here lately things seem to be coming a part. What a lot of men don't realize is that you can not get too comfortable in a relationship and stop courting or dating the woman. Well it seems that he's done just that so I haven't seen him in a month and one week (you know how us women be keeping track of everything). LOL. And I don't talk to him daily like I use to...The summer time is coming and this one will be real niiiiiiiiize. <BR/><BR/>-CRMUATA NOWEhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10163803445038361728noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21548272.post-80882965982671525242007-04-26T14:02:00.000-07:002007-04-26T14:02:00.000-07:00Reader Responds:You knocked this one OUT THE PARK!...Reader Responds:<BR/><BR/>You knocked this one OUT THE PARK! Oh, I'm right there with you!!!! I have two boys, and believe me, they are being raised old old school all the way. Even opening the door for me, or for any women. They pull out chairs at dinner, they answer questions with yes sir, no sir and all that. I don't fool around with that kind of stuff. I absolutely will not tolerate disrespect under no circumstance. And that goes for there lil' friends too!<BR/> <BR/>You only get one chance to raise a black young man, the right way.<BR/><BR/>-RSMUATA NOWEhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10163803445038361728noreply@blogger.com